December 31, 2008
How to fail-proof your New Year’s resolutions
It’s tempting to dream about a “new and improved” you, when the eve of a brand New Year is approaching. I unfortunately succumbed to the urge in my latest Babes’ Blog entry.
This article from MSNBC (i put the link in just in case you want to read it! its good) gives some interesting insight into our uniquely- human habit of making lists and setting goals for ourselves. (As far as I know my dog doesn’t dream of self improvement.)
It seems there may be a right way and a wrong way to go about making a life list. That is, of course, if you want your list to lead to a life of increased happiness and fulfillment, rather than simply just a tidier home, longer fingernails, or shinier hair. The article’s author, Stephanie Dolgoff, suggests a list of 9 things to think about before you consider making your own list. They are as follows:
1. Know the purpose of your list. (Uncover your core values by asking yourself “What kind of person do I want to be?”
2. Focus on what you already like about yourself and your life, and take it from there.
3. Make sure your goals are intrinsically motivated. (Meaning: Don’t use your life to try to impress other people.)
4. Think about what you want to do, not what you want to have.
5. Keep it fun. (If it’s not, you won’t do it.)
6. Keep it positive. (Language counts. More action, less reaction.)
7. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. (Think small, easily digestible bites, instead.)
8. Read your list to yourself. (How does it make you feel? Intimidated, empowered, challenged?)
9. Include your wildest dreams, and be ready to abandon, or change any items on the list at any time.
If you’re looking for support to help you realize you’re goals, this BabyCenter Community group is a good place to start. For more inspiration, here’s another goal setting article from ZenHabits.
Do any of you plan to make a life list for 2009? Are you thinking big–lifestyle overhaul– or small–lose a few pounds and stop yelling at the kids? Or , in the spirit of the late Fred Rogers, do you “love yourself just the way you are?”
December 30, 2008
We are going to use her playpen that also doubles as a bassinet for a little while because we only have the one bedroom and we plan on her staying in our room for about 3 months anyway. after that we are going to move into a two bedroom so she can have her own room!
We ended up getting two strollers the one on the left Dez mom bought us and the one on the right my mom bought us! we are going to use the brown one for the nanny who will be watching Ava when i go back to work. We thought it would be a good idea to have two just so we were not swapping stuff all the time and she can just hang on to it for a while unless we needed it for something.
We are unsure where we are going to put her changing table just yet but we put all of her stuff underneath this desk area and we are going to get some more shelves and stack them on top with drawers so we have places for a lot of her stuff! also in this picture is my diaper bag! I love love love it! It is a gift from the Zangs.
In her bed we have some of the little blankets and things that were given to her! I love those and i know that she will too! they are all so cute! we still have a few things to set up but we are mostly done. we are still lacking a few things. but we will get them in time! I still have at least one more baby shower here! and possibly one in Texas at a later date. So i am sure that we will get more than enough of what we need! It is really just little things.
My blood pressure is very normal and has not changed too much! I am up and down sometimes.
I have only gained 2 LBS in the last 3 weeks so that is very good! not bad at all! I feel like i gain about a pound everyday! But at least i am not!!! that is a very positive thing for me!
We also heard the heart beat and she said it was right where it needed to be. I love love love that part.
She also felt for the way the baby was positioned and she said that her head was down and that was good because i was unsure at times if she was or not! Glad she is not breech!!!
She checked my cervix and she said that it is not closed and it is a little dilated but she could not get all the way through so it was not that far along but that is about what i should be for 36 weeks.
we went ahead and set up the next two weeks of appointments. Monday is the next one and then the following week on Wednesday. We are week to week now and getting so close!!! hopefully we will be moving right on schedule!
The ornaments on the tree are ones from when i was little. We all got them as childern in my family and i am so grateful my mom has saved them over the years. Its fun to look back on them and remember all the wonderful christmas times we all shared and who each one is from! I cant wait to start getting all of them for Ava.
I have gotten a few stretch marks in the last week or so. They are not bad so i am really hoping that they don't get much worse! though they probably will. Oh well the end of all this is what really matters and that is a beautiful baby girl!!
Des said that it looks like she is all baby in the last shot! it is a big round circle! We thought this was a crazy looking picture.
here are a few of the ones that took while we were out on the course!!!
I love this picture of Des!!
This is us hanging out on the golf cart. of course Dez is being silly as usual!!! Look at my chubby cheeks!
Des is a very good golfer! i can't wait till he gets to play with my family more and more! That is something that all the men in my life are very into! I actually have a lot of fun just riding around with him and laughing! we have such a great time together just talking and being around each other. Lots of laughs all the time! the next two are of Dez swinging the club!
This was the first ball that he hit on the first hole... we were unable to locate it until the second hole and about half way to the second green! LOL he had not been in a while. But after that he was all warmed up and ready to go! he did awesome from then on out! oh and he was breaking in new shoes he got from my family for Christmas so maybe that had something to do with it!!! either way it was funny when we finally found it!!!!!
Michelle and Amanda are the two wonderful girls who threw the shower for me! it was wonderful! the next few pictures are of a few gifts i opened. there were a lot of pictures i may be able to upload them later.
This is the cute cake from the party! It was so so so good!!!
Also today is our 36 week appointment so we are going to the doctor at around 4:30 today So hopefully with me not working all day and having a decently easy day i will get home and feel like actually doing things.
Dez has been so wonderful and understanding with me not feeling great and not wanting to do anything but sit on the couch! he takes the dogs out for me every time. I try to help when i am not extremely sore or when i know that it will be an ordeal for him to take both of them out! he cooks for us EVERY night. I think that i have cooked 2 times in our new place sense we moved there! he has cooked just about every night. and he cleans up the dishes! i try to help with that and he just tells me to sit down and rest! He also helps me with laundry which i know that he hates to do but i just don't have the energy to keep up with it all! I actually don't mind doing it but it seems like it has completely horrible right now but i still try to keep that up!
I feel so worthless sometimes just watching him but when i try to help i just get so sleepy and end up falling asleep or being down for the count the next day! But i am all in all feeling very well not sick just achy (to be expected)
We are both hoping that she decides to come a little early for the reasons that it is getting more and more difficult to carry her around and all with my back and legs. And because we so badly want to meet and hold her! we are so excited and feel like it has taken forever for us just to get to see her and hold her and love on her! the thought that it is just around the corner is so exciting and unbearable at the same time because the closer we get the more impatient we get to see her! hopefully the doctor will say that she is well on her way today and that we probably won't make it till her due date!! that would be awesome! But we are not going to put all of our hope on that. it would just be nice to hear that today! it would be a relaxing relief for me to hear that it could be sooner!
Hope everyone has a wonderful day and i will be sure to bring the CD for pictures tomorrow and also update everyone on our appointment!
December 29, 2008
How your baby's growing:Your baby is still packing on the pounds — at the rate of about an ounce a day. She now weighs almost 6 pounds (like a crenshaw melon) and is more than 18 1/2 inches long. She's shedding most of the downy covering of hair that covered her body as well as the vernix caseosa, the waxy substance that covered and protected her skin during her nine-month amniotic bath. Your baby swallows both of these substances, along with other secretions, resulting in a blackish mixture, called meconium, will form the contents of her first bowel movement.At the end of this week, your baby will be considered full-term. (Full-term is 37 to 42 weeks; babies born before 37 weeks are pre-term and those born after 42 are post-term.) Most likely she's in a head-down position. But if she isn't, your practitioner may suggest scheduling an "external cephalic version," which is a fancy way of saying she'll try to coax your baby into a head-down position by manipulating her from the outside of your belly.
Ava's development in pregnancy week 36:
Ava in ninth month The countdown continues… and in Ava's developments:
most of the bones (soft skull aside) in their little body are now completely hardened, providing a solid structure from which they can now make their grand debut into the world. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are structurally ready for a secure launch. In physical fitness news: their muscle tone has also improved over these past few weeks, and you’ll definitely be impressed by their steel-like Ulnar grasp (a newborn reflex that occurs if you lay your finger in their palm). And in genital development: if you’re having a girl, her labia are now fully developed. Finally, in the fluids/excretion department: the amniotic fluid-to-baby ratio has fallen over these past weeks, although they’re still swallowing fluid (building up even more meconium for that historic first poop), and some vernix caseosa. They will be more than ready to swallow and digest milk after birth. Just in case you didn’t get it quite yet: you’ve got yourself an adorable and hungry 6.5 lbs 20 inch baby—are you ready?
This week we have our weekly appointment! this is the week they are going to start checking me for any dilation!!!! hoping but not holding my breath!
Des and i are noticing that if we rub on an area of my belly she will stick her foot up and keep it there till we stop rubbing! it is so cute and fun to think that she is bonding with us already!!! Everyday we are talking about how we can't wait to see her and hold her! we are on about 4 weeks... till her due date!!! we are hoping that she is on time at least! hoping she doesn't decide to come late!!!
Last week we also set up her Playpen and Stroller. We set up her changing table and got things organized with diapers and clothes and all that wonderful stuff! all we need now is our angel to join us!!!
I am having dez put some pictures on a cd today so hopefully i can upload them tomorrow on here!!! there are a lot of updates picture wise i need to add on here!!!
December 26, 2008
Ava: ( this is a name Dez and I picked while we were dating and we still LOVE it) here is the meaning of her first name:
Hebrew, English: Like a bird
Lucille: ( the name of Dez Grandma who passed away a while ago but she was the one who raised Dez and she means so much to him!)
Here is the meaning of her middle name:
I worked on Christmas eve for a while and when i got home Dez was putting together her new stroller and playpen! they are so easy to work with and light! We are going to use her playpen which is also a bassinet first until we are in a two bedroom place. our lease on our apartment is going to be up in April and we figured we would save the money and stay in the one bedroom until she is about 3 months because she will be sleeping with us most of the time anyway!
I also have a new cute picture of our baby girl Abbie! She is so wonderful and we love her so much! I think she is going to be great with Ava! she Loves babies!
This is the only picture i have right now to post but i will be putting some pictures on a CD and bringing them to work to update this with.
here is our baby girl Abbie!!!
December 24, 2008
This year we are also going to come up with one thing each that we would like to start tradition wise with Ava next year.
Like opening one present Christmas Eve, or Making breakfast Christmas morning, stuff like that! I just think it will be fun to think about next year with our little angel with us! As much as i would LOVE for her to be here with us this year i know that it is not her time to be born and know she needs a little more time. Although not much more because Christmas day will be ONE MONTH exactly till her due date! Maybe we will see her sooner! who knows. Possibly later than that but either way we just pray she is a healthy happy little girl! We already know that she will be very spoiled. Not only by being a Daddy's girl but also with all her grandparents and great grandparents! And i am sure friends and the rest of our family's !!! she is already so loved and she has no idea!!!!
We will miss not being with family this year and can't wait till we can spend Christmas with our family's next year and have our wonderful little angel with us!!!!
We hope everyone has a wonderful and safe Christmas!!!!
oh i saw this and it made me think of our loud neighbors up above us!!! i mean they are so loud its unbelievable!!! but this makes me laugh when i think about it!
December 22, 2008
How your baby's growing:
Your baby doesn't have much room to maneuver now that she's over 18 inches long and tips the scales at 5 1/4 pounds (pick up a honeydew melon). Because it's so snug in your womb, she isn't likely to be doing somersaults anymore, but the number of times she kicks should remain about the same. Her kidneys are fully developed now, and her liver can process some waste products. Most of her basic physical development is now complete — she'll spend the next few weeks putting on weight.
Ava's development in pregnancy week 35:
Ava's in eighth month Congratulations! You’re now carrying nearly 6 lbs of baby not counting their amniotic fluid, the umbilical cord, or the placenta itself. We’re impressed because that’s a LOT of work non-stop. Are you feeling proud of yourself yet? Well, get to it—you’ve done an amazing job! At this point, your little grower is almost busting out of the womb size-wise, which make their restricted attempts to move much challenging. Of course, your stubborn little sucker is still trying to move around as if they weren’t in a cramped space. And the accumulation baby fat deposits are starting to level off so your little butter ball will be padded and warm when they head out of their super snug little home.
I have added the part about how I am doing... it seems to be pretty accurate so i thought i would add it for fun!!!
And how's mom doing?
Obviously the big change for you is the notable weight shift (known as “lightening” or “engagement”). Now that your baby is resting deeper in your pelvis, you may find yourself walking as if you're carrying a watermelon between your legs. Yes dear, you’re officially “waddling” these days. Try to comfort Now that your baby is resting deeper in your pelvis, you may find yourself walking as if you're carrying a watermelon between your legs yourself with this thought: it’s nearly over. Soon, you’ll just have to carry your adorable little watermelon in your arms. And in a rare spate of good news: this weight shift means you can breathe easier now that your lungs aren’t compressed. The not-so-good news, it’s a trade off: (we’ll wait till you’re back from the restroom) this new position has your poor bladder even more squished than before. We’d recommend writing your bladder little love poems to convince it not to leave you altogether, but unfortunately bladders don’t speak English (only Italian love poems will do).
At your next check up you can expect your physician to conduct a Group B Streptococci test (GBS), a common bacteria screening. As long as you have a strong immune system, you’re in the clear (one more reason to eat right and exercise!), but your little one is more susceptible to serious health complications (including meningitis, pneumonia and blood infection) if not diagnosed and treated properly—so the tests are good for some peace of mind. Hang in there momma, you’re already a super-star for making it this far!
Next Tuesday December 30Th is My 36 week appointment!!! we waited 3 weeks because she thought everything would be fine until after Christmas!
At my next appointment they will start checking for Dilation and all that good stuff! Hoping for maybe a little so we can get this show on the road!!! we are so ready for our little angel to finally be in our arms!!! I feel like we have waited forever for her! but At the same time it has really all gone really fast! I am just anxious for her to be here! I think that My stress and every worry will be over when she is finally here and born and we hear her cry and get to hold her for the first time!!!
we are packing the bags this week and trying to get everything set up for when she comes home and for when we go to the hospital!!!
Hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas!!! i will be sure to update before and after the appointment!!!!
December 16, 2008
here is the 34 week update:
Your pregnancy: 34 weeks
How your baby's growing:
Your baby now weighs about 4 3/4 pounds (like your average cantaloupe) and is almost 18 inches long. Her fat layers — which will help regulate her body temperature once she's born — are filling her out, making her rounder. Her skin is also smoother than ever. Her central nervous system is maturing and her lungs are continuing to mature as well. If you've been nervous about preterm labor, you'll be happy to know that babies born between 34 and 37 weeks who have no other health problems generally do fine. They may need a short stay in the neonatal nursery and may have a few short-term health issues, but in the long run, they usually do as well as full-term babies.
Ava's development in pregnancy week 34:
Ava in eighth month: Your amazing baby is on the move! They’ve been riding fairly high in your stretched-out womb till now (while kindly compressing your poor internal organs), but now they’re planning on making the big move to your pelvis this week. If you haven’t noticed it already, you’ll be feeling the weight shift that signals that your baby is most likely out of breech position, with their head now resting on your pubic bone. In liver news: although not quite fully formed, your little miracle’s liver is now capable of processing a certain amount of waste. In general, most of your child’s prenatal physical development is pretty much up to snuff and ready for the outside world. Naturally, further weight gain is expected—so you’re still not at maximum capacity despite probably feeling like you definitely are maxed out.
December 12, 2008
She pushed back my appointment to 3 weeks with the holiday and said the way things are going i should be fine to wait an extra week then we are going to weekly appointments!!! My next appointment will be at 36 weeks. They are going to start checking for Dialation and all that wonderful stuff!!! YEAH!!! hopefully she will be early! well not too early! healthy early!!
This weekend we are flying to Texas to see my parent inbetween the holidays because after this weekend i will not be able to travel more than an hour away. so we won't be able to see anyone for christmas unless they come here. but Dez parents came for Thanksgiving and My mom was just out here visiting. So we are not going to be seeing any of them for christmas which is ok i am sure that i will be needing to take it very easy then. I am getting swollen very easily now so i have to take the most easiest tasks slow. But whatever i need to do to keep her healthy is my number one priority!
we are about 6 weeks away from the birth of our little angel!!!
hope everyone has a wonderful day!!!!
December 11, 2008
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December 8, 2008
We had a great week. We went and did a little shopping. She went ahead and got us our christmas presents so that she didn't have to buy them and send them.
Dez got a new pair of Golf Shoes (hopefully he will be using them a lot here soon!)
He also got some other golf stuff. He really wants to have more free time to go golfing and also my whole family loves to golf so he has something fun to do with just the guys in the family when we visit!
She also got some things for baby Ava. I little seat for her to sit in when we go to baseball games and other stuff. She also got her a sonogram ornament it is so cute!
While We were at work on thursday she went to the store and bought a little christmas tree. (real) and decorated it with all of my ornaments and were given to me when I was growing up! It was so cute to come home to!
She also got us a little video camera called the flip! That thing is so amazing! It records videos and all you do is stick it in the computer and they are ready to email and upload! We video taped some of the shower to when I get the internet again I will upload it!
We had a wonderful time with my mom here! I really didn't want her to go home! But she has some lonely boys who called her all the time missing her and all she does for them! I think my dad doesn't share her very well! He just misses her too much while she is gone!
Also this week we hit 33 weeks this weekend!!! about 47 days left till our little Ava Lucille is here!!! Its coming up fast! But we cannot wait!
here is a little update:
Ava's Development in pregnancy week 33:
Ava in eighth month For all the weight and bulk you’re lugging around these days, you’d think your little champ should weigh much more than a mere 5 lbs and measly 17 inches in height, but nope, that’s about the average size for a baby in its thirty-third week. In terms of appearances, they’re getting cuter and pudgier every minute as they pile on the baby fat for those adorable little wrist rolls and chubby toes. And as we’re sure you’ve already noticed they’re getting stronger with every passing day. Nowadays, it’s possible to observe a well-placed kick just by watching your belly—but you already knew that didn’t you? Although they’re getting stronger, your bigger-by-the-day baby is losing space to move around, so the actual rate of movement will drop off in the last few weeks, despite that powerful drop-kick they’ve been working on. Hey, did you know you’ll continue feeling their movements even during labor?
Your pregnancy: 33 weeks
How your baby's growing:
This week your baby weighs a little over 4 pounds (heft a pineapple) and has passed the 17-inch mark. She's rapidly losing that wrinkled, alien look and Her skeleton is hardening. The bones in her skull aren't fused together, which allows them to move and slightly overlap, thus making it easier for him to fit through the birth canal. (The pressure on the head during birth is so intense that many babies are born with a conehead-like appearance.) These bones don't entirely fuse until early adulthood, so they can grow as his brain and other tissue expands during infancy and childhood.
December 5, 2008
Last night she made a new pasta dish for us to try! It was so good! Dez was happy he didn't have to cook for a night because he always does the cooking because I am always so sleepy or just worn out to the point where I pretty much am in a Daze! Then we all watched some tv and chit chatted on the couch for a while. It was fun! She also took me to lunch yesterday and today!
Tonight we are meeting up with my moms Aunt and Cousins for dinner. We only found out that they live so close to us when we were sending out wedding invitations and I saw the addresses and knew where they were. It was crazy but awesome to have family so close!
Other than that not much going on besides me retaining so much water. I am loosing my ankles really fast! It is so sad! only a few pair of my shoes fit comfortably! And it moves up my legs as the day progresses. But it goes away when i have a chance to chill out and put them up! She is also putting her feet right in my ribs. I know she is just trying to make some stretching room for her because she is quickly loosing room and fast! so she is more than welcome to stretch out where ever needed! Sometimes i wish i could get a warning though because i am sure that my co workers think i have a twitch because i randomly jump or jerk around when she does because it throws me off guard and sometimes isn't the most pleasant feeling. But that is really not anything to complain about!
we are almost to 33 weeks. getting really close! down to 50 Days till our angel is born!!! Can not wait to hold our little angel for the first time!!!!
December 1, 2008
On wed. Morning I woke up a little sick. Just a cold. But I played it safe and came home early from work to rest! Des showed up early too! That was a nice suprise! He never really gets to leave work early! I was happy that he got to rest as well!
Dez and I woke up early as we have been for a while now that I can't sleep much! We got ready and made a salad to take over to my second cousins house for Lunch! We went over there to spend some time with family! It was so nice to see them again. Things have been so crazy with the wedding and getting ready for Ava that we have had little time to see them! I wish we have had more time in the past! well Hopefully we will be able to see them more and more! They fried 3 turkeys... That was so good! and we had all kinds of sides! We staid and talked for a while but then we had to run over to another house to see our friends for the dinner part of the day! They had some wonderful ham! we all just sat around and talked. We left about 8:00 because that is about all my energy will allow for! I know Dez would have loved to stay longer but I just needed my rest after being sick all day wed.! We went home and watched some TV then went to bed! it was a very nice day! I am greatful for getting to spend time with friends and family! we had a blast!
Dez and I got up once again and went and ran around and got somethings done. Later that night his parents came to visit us for the rest of the weekend. I was so happy to see them! we have not seen them sense the wedding! We have of course talked to them and all but we have not been around them! So when the got here we went to dinner and then came back and relaxed for the rest of the night! the next day we all got up and we went to run some errands and we of course made a spot at Babies R Us. Lesa bought some very cute things for little miss ava. And the Playyard we have been wanting! We were so excited!
the rest of the weekend we just hung out with them and relaxed! It was a great fun weekend.
My mom is going to be in town on wed. Which We can't wait! I feel like I have not seen her in a long time! she will be here till next monday!!!!!! can't wait!
The next weekend we are going to be in Dallas to see my family again! Kind of a between the holidays visit! because i won't be able to travel for Christmas! Going to see Chelsea while we are there and hopefully a few others. Time allowing. We are not going to be there very long.
That is my last weekend to travel more than an hour away until after Ava is born. We will be at 34 weeks then!!!! Wow its getting so close!
That is what we have going on in the next few weeks!!! hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving and a wonderful rest of the week!!
Your pregnancy: 32 weeks
How your baby's growing:
By now, your baby weighs 3.75 pounds (pick up a large jicama) and is about 16.7 inches long, taking up a lot of space in your uterus. You're gaining about a pound a week and roughly half of that goes right to your baby. In fact, she'll gain a third to half of her birth weight during the next 7 weeks as she fattens up for survival outside the womb. She now has toenails, fingernails, and real hair (or at least respectable peach fuzz). Her skin is becoming soft and smooth as she plumps up in preparation for birth.
Ava's development in pregnancy week 32:
Ava's in eighth month In the latest womb reports, your amazing baby has now developed sensitivity to temperature! This means you’ll probably get a swift kick if you put a hot pad on your ginormous belly. For the Elton John lovers out there-- yes, baby’s got blue eyes. At this point, all babies do, although depending on their chromosomal disposition, this could easily change after birth (or even between now and labor), but for the time being, blue it is. Thanks to their recently matured lungs and a remarkably strong immune system, over 90% of babies born in their 32nd week, survive premature births. So it’s pretty much a done deal. Even if your little monkey’s planning on heading out early, their survival odds are in everyone’s favor. Time to celebrate (no, no, wait until after the birth to crack open the champagne!) We’re talking baby-showers and alcohol-free punch!